refactor: unify the event recorder (#6689)

* refactor: unify the event recorder

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* refactor: add `table_name()` in `Event` trait

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* chore: add `slow_query_options` in `Instance`

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* refactor: add `EventHandlerOptions` and `options()` in `EventHandler` trait

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* chore: add `aggregate_events_by_type()` and support log mode of slow query

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* chore: polish the code

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* fix: clippy errors

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* chore: support to set ttl by using extension of query context

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* chore: refine the configs fields

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* fix: sqlness test errors

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* refactor: use `Duration` type instead of `String` for ttl fields

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* refactor: use pre-allocation for building RowInsertRequests

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* chore: fix clippy errors

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* refactor: code review

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* chore: fix integration errors

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* refactor: polish code for `group_events_by_type()` and `build_row_inserts_request()`, also add the unit tests

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* chore: refine comments

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tests-integration/Cargo.toml

@@ -28,6 +28,7 @@ common-catalog.workspace = true
 common-config.workspace = true
 common-error.workspace = true
 common-event-recorder.workspace = true
+common-frontend.workspace = true
 common-grpc.workspace = true
 common-meta = { workspace = true, features = ["testing"] }
 common-procedure.workspace = true