fix(python): commit streaming worker checkpoints on consumption (#4023)

## Summary

- add `StreamingDataLoader`, which transports worker snapshots with
prefetched batches and commits them to the parent dataset only when the
trainer receives each batch
- preserve exact non-uniform per-split progress and resume lagging
splits without replaying already-consumed rows
- reject stale parent checkpoints after a standard multi-process
`DataLoader` has started, with guidance to use the consumer-aware loader
- document the new public loader and merge non-uniform state across
ranks

## Root cause

PyTorch runs `StreamingDataset.__iter__` in private worker-process
copies, while callers invoke `state_dict()` on the parent dataset.
Sharing producer counters would still be incorrect because DataLoader
prefetch can advance workers beyond batches returned to the trainer.

## Validation

- `uv run --extra tests pytest python/tests/test_elastic_dataloader.py
-q` (154 passed)
- focused non-uniform merge regression (1 passed)
- `uv run --project python --extra tests --extra dev ruff format .`
- `uv run --project python --extra tests --extra dev ruff check .`
- `cd docs && PYTHONPATH=. ../python/.venv/bin/mkdocs build`

Fixes #3967

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docs/src/python/python.md

@@ -261,6 +261,8 @@ instead of being materialized with the rest of the row.
 
 ::: lancedb.streaming.StreamingDataset
 
+::: lancedb.streaming.StreamingDataLoader
+
 ::: lancedb.permutation.permutation_builder
 
 ::: lancedb.permutation.PermutationBuilder