fix(node): update arrow to 21 (#4362)

Thanks @vincentkoc for starting this! I was just looking into this
myself. I started with your PR and added:
- make arrow 21 the default
- widen the peer range to <22 so if they release 21.3 that'll be
included
- have to do skipLibCheck in tsconfig.json, because of flatbuffers 25
which needs TypeScript 5.7
- fix override in Symbol.hasInstance
- support new types in Arrow 20-21 (LargeList, Utf8View, BinaryView,
IntervalMonthDayNano)
- arrow-compat job in nodejs.yml that runs tests with arrow 19 and 20
(adds 2 sec)
- put the list of arrow types in one place
- update NODEJS_THIRD_PARTY_LICENSES.md
- regenerated typescript docs (sorry about reorderings, one time cost)
- reformat arrow.test.ts (sorry, almost all whitespace, thanks to biome.
git diff -w shows 110 lines edited)
- fixed Sliced Utf8View / BinaryView serialization error, by just
converting them to Utf8 and Binary (as our rust code would anyway)

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Co-authored-by: Vincent Koc <vincentkoc@ieee.org>
Co-authored-by: Claude Fable 5.1 <noreply@anthropic.com>

nodejs/package.json

@@ -49,10 +49,14 @@
     "@types/jest": "^29.1.2",
     "@types/node": "22.7.4",
     "@types/tmp": "^0.2.6",
+    "apache-arrow": "21.2.0",
     "apache-arrow-15": "npm:apache-arrow@15.0.0",
     "apache-arrow-16": "npm:apache-arrow@16.0.0",
     "apache-arrow-17": "npm:apache-arrow@17.0.0",
     "apache-arrow-18": "npm:apache-arrow@18.0.0",
+    "apache-arrow-19": "npm:apache-arrow@19.0.1",
+    "apache-arrow-20": "npm:apache-arrow@20.0.0",
+    "apache-arrow-21": "npm:apache-arrow@21.2.0",
     "eslint": "^8.57.0",
     "jest": "^29.7.0",
     "shx": "^0.3.4",
@@ -102,7 +106,7 @@
   },
   "peerDependencies": {
     "@types/node": ">=22",
-    "apache-arrow": ">=15.0.0 <=18.1.0"
+    "apache-arrow": ">=15.0.0 <22.0.0"
   },
   "peerDependenciesMeta": {
     "@types/node": {