ci: fix release by upgrading to Node 18 (#1494)

Building with Node 16 produced this error:

```
npm ERR! code ENOENT
npm ERR! syscall chmod
npm ERR! path /io/nodejs/node_modules/apache-arrow-15/bin/arrow2csv.cjs
npm ERR! errno -2
npm ERR! enoent ENOENT: no such file or directory, chmod '/io/nodejs/node_modules/apache-arrow-15/bin/arrow2csv.cjs'
npm ERR! enoent This is related to npm not being able to find a file.
npm ERR! enoent 
```

[CI
Failure](https://github.com/lancedb/lancedb/actions/runs/10117131772/job/27981475770).
This looks like it is https://github.com/apache/arrow/issues/43341

Upgrading to Node 18 makes this goes away. Since Node 18 requires glibc
>= 2_28, we had to upgrade the manylinux version we are using. This is
fine since we already state a minimum Node version of 18.

This also upgrades the openssl version we bundle, as well as
consolidates the build files.

ci/build_linux_artifacts.sh

@@ -18,4 +18,4 @@ docker run \
     -v $(pwd):/io -w /io \
     --memory-swap=-1 \
     lancedb-node-manylinux \
-    bash ci/manylinux_node/build.sh $ARCH
+    bash ci/manylinux_node/build_vectordb.sh $ARCH