feat(python)!: align Permutation.with_format("torch") with HuggingFace set_format("torch") (#3369)

Closes #3245.

> **BREAKING CHANGE:** `with_format("torch")` no longer returns a list
of stacked row tensors. It now returns per-row dicts so PyTorch's
default `DataLoader` collate stacks them into `{col: tensor(B,)}`.
Switch to `with_format("torch_row")` to keep the old shape.

### What changed

`"torch"` now returns a list of per-row dicts (`[{col: tensor}, ...]`)
at every indexed access path. The default `DataLoader` collate stacks
them into a column-keyed batched dict, no custom `collate_fn` needed.
The old shape is preserved under a new `"torch_row"` literal.
`"torch_col"` is unchanged.

The unbatching lives inside the transform (`batch_to_tensor_dict`), not
`__getitems__`, so the shape survives pickling and works under
`DataLoader(num_workers>0, multiprocessing_context="spawn")`.

### Format comparison

| Format | `iter(batch_size=N)` | `__getitems__([0,1,2])` | `DataLoader`
default collate |
|---|---|---|---|
| `"torch"` (new) | `list[{col: tensor}]` length N | `list[{col:
tensor}]` length 3 | `{col: tensor(B,)}` |
| `"torch_row"` (old `"torch"` behavior) | `list[tensor(n_cols,)]`
length N | `list[tensor(n_cols,)]` length 3 | `tensor(B, n_cols)` |
| `"torch_col"` (unchanged) | `tensor(n_cols, N)` | `tensor(n_cols, 3)`
| needs `collate_fn=lambda x: x` |

Output matches HuggingFace `Dataset.set_format("torch")` on container
shape, keys, and values at every access path. The only divergence:
HuggingFace downcasts `float64` to `torch.float32` by default, LanceDB
preserves dtype. Verified by `scripts/verify_torch_format.py`.

### Migration

```python
# Old default — column names lost, shape was tensor(B, n_cols)
DataLoader(Permutation.identity(table).with_format("torch"))

# New default — column names preserved
DataLoader(Permutation.identity(table).with_format("torch"))     # {col: tensor(B,)}

# Keep old behavior
DataLoader(Permutation.identity(table).with_format("torch_row")) # tensor(B, n_cols)
```

python/python/tests/test_permutation.py

@@ -935,14 +935,41 @@ def test_transform_fn(mem_db):
     try:
         import torch
 
-        torch_result = list(
-            permutation.with_format("torch").iter(10, skip_last_batch=False)
+        # "torch" returns a list of per-row dicts. Default DataLoader collate
+        # stacks the per-row dicts back into a dict of batched tensors.
+        torch_perm = permutation.with_format("torch")
+        torch_batch = list(torch_perm.iter(10, skip_last_batch=False))[0]
+        assert isinstance(torch_batch, list)
+        assert len(torch_batch) == 10
+        assert isinstance(torch_batch[0], dict)
+        assert set(torch_batch[0].keys()) == {"id", "value"}
+        assert isinstance(torch_batch[0]["id"], torch.Tensor)
+        assert torch_batch[0]["id"].dtype == torch.int64
+
+        rows = torch_perm.__getitems__([0, 1, 2])
+        assert isinstance(rows, list)
+        assert len(rows) == 3
+        assert isinstance(rows[0], dict)
+        assert set(rows[0].keys()) == {"id", "value"}
+        assert isinstance(rows[0]["id"], torch.Tensor)
+
+        # "torch_row" returns a list of tensors, one per row.
+        torch_rows = list(
+            permutation.with_format("torch_row").iter(10, skip_last_batch=False)
         )[0]
-        assert isinstance(torch_result, list)
-        assert len(torch_result) == 10
-        assert isinstance(torch_result[0], torch.Tensor)
-        assert torch_result[0].shape == (2,)
-        assert torch_result[0].dtype == torch.int64
+        assert isinstance(torch_rows, list)
+        assert len(torch_rows) == 10
+        assert isinstance(torch_rows[0], torch.Tensor)
+        assert torch_rows[0].shape == (2,)
+        assert torch_rows[0].dtype == torch.int64
+
+        # "torch_col" stacks columns into a single 2D tensor.
+        torch_col = list(
+            permutation.with_format("torch_col").iter(10, skip_last_batch=False)
+        )[0]
+        assert isinstance(torch_col, torch.Tensor)
+        assert torch_col.shape == (2, 10)
+        assert torch_col.dtype == torch.int64
     except ImportError:
         # Skip check if torch is not installed
         pass