This PR fixes build issues associated with `aws-lc-rs`, while
simplifying the build process. Previously, we used custom scripts for
the musl and Windows ARM builds. These were complicated and prone to
breaking. This PR switches to a setup that mirrors
https://github.com/napi-rs/package-template/blob/main/.github/workflows/CI.yml.
* linux glibc and musl builds now use the Docker images provided by the
napi project
* Windows ARM build now just cross compiles from Windows x64, which
turns out to work quite well.
Building with Node 16 produced this error:
```
npm ERR! code ENOENT
npm ERR! syscall chmod
npm ERR! path /io/nodejs/node_modules/apache-arrow-15/bin/arrow2csv.cjs
npm ERR! errno -2
npm ERR! enoent ENOENT: no such file or directory, chmod '/io/nodejs/node_modules/apache-arrow-15/bin/arrow2csv.cjs'
npm ERR! enoent This is related to npm not being able to find a file.
npm ERR! enoent
```
[CI
Failure](https://github.com/lancedb/lancedb/actions/runs/10117131772/job/27981475770).
This looks like it is https://github.com/apache/arrow/issues/43341
Upgrading to Node 18 makes this goes away. Since Node 18 requires glibc
>= 2_28, we had to upgrade the manylinux version we are using. This is
fine since we already state a minimum Node version of 18.
This also upgrades the openssl version we bundle, as well as
consolidates the build files.
* Labelled jobs `vectordb` and `lancedb` so it's clear which package
they are for
* Fix permission issue in aarch64 Linux `vectordb` build that has been
blocking release for two months.
* Added Slack notifications for failure of these publish jobs.
