fixes that all `neon pack-build` packs are named
`vectordb-linux-x64-musl-*.tgz` even when cross-compiling
adds 2nd param:
`TARGET_TRIPLE=${2:-x86_64-unknown-linux-gnu}`
`npm run pack-build -- -t $TARGET_TRIPLE`
Building with Node 16 produced this error:
```
npm ERR! code ENOENT
npm ERR! syscall chmod
npm ERR! path /io/nodejs/node_modules/apache-arrow-15/bin/arrow2csv.cjs
npm ERR! errno -2
npm ERR! enoent ENOENT: no such file or directory, chmod '/io/nodejs/node_modules/apache-arrow-15/bin/arrow2csv.cjs'
npm ERR! enoent This is related to npm not being able to find a file.
npm ERR! enoent
```
[CI
Failure](https://github.com/lancedb/lancedb/actions/runs/10117131772/job/27981475770).
This looks like it is https://github.com/apache/arrow/issues/43341
Upgrading to Node 18 makes this goes away. Since Node 18 requires glibc
>= 2_28, we had to upgrade the manylinux version we are using. This is
fine since we already state a minimum Node version of 18.
This also upgrades the openssl version we bundle, as well as
consolidates the build files.
* Labelled jobs `vectordb` and `lancedb` so it's clear which package
they are for
* Fix permission issue in aarch64 Linux `vectordb` build that has been
blocking release for two months.
* Added Slack notifications for failure of these publish jobs.
