feat: adjust the tonic features to remove axum dependency (#10348)

To help facilitate an upgrade to axum 0.8
(https://github.com/neondatabase/neon/pull/10332#pullrequestreview-2541989619)
this massages the tonic dependency features so that tonic does not
depend on axum.

Cargo.lock

@@ -7004,12 +7004,9 @@ version = "0.12.3"
 source = "registry+https://github.com/rust-lang/crates.io-index"
 checksum = "877c5b330756d856ffcc4553ab34a5684481ade925ecc54bcd1bf02b1d0d4d52"
 dependencies = [
- "async-stream",
  "async-trait",
- "axum",
  "base64 0.22.1",
  "bytes",
- "h2 0.4.4",
  "http 1.1.0",
  "http-body 1.0.0",
  "http-body-util",
@@ -7021,7 +7018,6 @@ dependencies = [
  "prost",
  "rustls-native-certs 0.8.0",
  "rustls-pemfile 2.1.1",
- "socket2",
  "tokio",
  "tokio-rustls 0.26.0",
  "tokio-stream",
@@ -7582,7 +7578,6 @@ dependencies = [
  "tikv-jemallocator",
  "tokio",
  "tokio-util",
- "tonic",
  "tonic-build",
  "tracing",
  "utils",
@@ -7991,8 +7986,6 @@ version = "0.1.0"
 dependencies = [
  "ahash",
  "anyhow",
- "axum",
- "axum-core",
  "base64 0.13.1",
  "base64 0.21.1",
  "base64ct",
@@ -8073,7 +8066,6 @@ dependencies = [
  "toml_edit",
  "tonic",
  "tower 0.4.13",
- "tower 0.5.2",
  "tracing",
  "tracing-core",
  "url",