remote_storage config: move handling of empty inline table {} to callers (#8193)

Before this PR, `RemoteStorageConfig::from_toml` would support
deserializing an
empty `{}` TOML inline table to a `None`, otherwise try `Some()`.

We can instead let
* in proxy: let clap derive handle the Option
* in PS & SK: assume that if the field is specified, it must be a valid
  RemtoeStorageConfig

(This PR started with a much simpler goal of factoring out the
`deserialize_item` function because I need that in another PR).

pageserver/ctl/src/main.rs

@@ -178,7 +178,7 @@ async fn main() -> anyhow::Result<()> {
             let toml_item = toml_document
                 .get("remote_storage")
                 .expect("need remote_storage");
-            let config = RemoteStorageConfig::from_toml(toml_item)?.expect("incomplete config");
+            let config = RemoteStorageConfig::from_toml(toml_item)?;
             let storage = remote_storage::GenericRemoteStorage::from_config(&config);
             let cancel = CancellationToken::new();
             storage