storcon: Make node deletion process cancellable (#12320)

## Problem

The current deletion operation is synchronous and blocking, which is
unsuitable for potentially long-running tasks like. In such cases, the
standard HTTP request-response pattern is not a good fit.

## Summary of Changes

- Added new `storcon_cli` commands: `NodeStartDelete` and
`NodeCancelDelete` to initiate and cancel deletion asynchronously.
- Added corresponding `storcon` HTTP handlers to support the new
start/cancel deletion flow.
- Introduced a new type of background operation: `Delete`, to track and
manage the deletion process outside the request lifecycle.

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Co-authored-by: Aleksandr Sarantsev <aleksandr.sarantsev@databricks.com>

libs/pageserver_api/src/controller_api.rs

@@ -386,6 +386,7 @@ pub enum NodeSchedulingPolicy {
     Pause,
     PauseForRestart,
     Draining,
+    Deleting,
 }
 
 impl FromStr for NodeSchedulingPolicy {
@@ -398,6 +399,7 @@ impl FromStr for NodeSchedulingPolicy {
             "pause" => Ok(Self::Pause),
             "pause_for_restart" => Ok(Self::PauseForRestart),
             "draining" => Ok(Self::Draining),
+            "deleting" => Ok(Self::Deleting),
             _ => Err(anyhow::anyhow!("Unknown scheduling state '{s}'")),
         }
     }
@@ -412,6 +414,7 @@ impl From<NodeSchedulingPolicy> for String {
             Pause => "pause",
             PauseForRestart => "pause_for_restart",
             Draining => "draining",
+            Deleting => "deleting",
         }
         .to_string()
     }