ingest: rate-limited warning if WAL commit timestamps lags for > wait_lsn_timeout (#8839)

refs https://github.com/neondatabase/cloud/issues/13750

The logging in this commit will make it easier to detect lagging ingest.

We're trusting compute timestamps --- ideally we'd use SK timestmaps
instead.
But trusting the compute timestamp is ok for now.

libs/utils/src/rate_limit.rs

@@ -5,6 +5,15 @@ use std::time::{Duration, Instant};
 pub struct RateLimit {
     last: Option<Instant>,
     interval: Duration,
+    dropped: u64,
+}
+
+pub struct RateLimitStats(u64);
+
+impl std::fmt::Display for RateLimitStats {
+    fn fmt(&self, f: &mut std::fmt::Formatter) -> std::fmt::Result {
+        write!(f, "{} dropped calls", self.0)
+    }
 }
 
 impl RateLimit {
@@ -12,20 +21,27 @@ impl RateLimit {
         Self {
             last: None,
             interval,
+            dropped: 0,
         }
     }
 
     /// Call `f` if the rate limit allows.
     /// Don't call it otherwise.
     pub fn call<F: FnOnce()>(&mut self, f: F) {
+        self.call2(|_| f())
+    }
+
+    pub fn call2<F: FnOnce(RateLimitStats)>(&mut self, f: F) {
         let now = Instant::now();
         match self.last {
             Some(last) if now - last <= self.interval => {
                 // ratelimit
+                self.dropped += 1;
             }
             _ => {
                 self.last = Some(now);
-                f();
+                f(RateLimitStats(self.dropped));
+                self.dropped = 0;
             }
         }
     }