Add /terminate API (#6745)

this is to speed up suspends, see
https://github.com/neondatabase/cloud/issues/10284

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compute_tools/src/bin/compute_ctl.rs

@@ -45,7 +45,6 @@ use std::{thread, time::Duration};
 use anyhow::{Context, Result};
 use chrono::Utc;
 use clap::Arg;
-use nix::sys::signal::{kill, Signal};
 use signal_hook::consts::{SIGQUIT, SIGTERM};
 use signal_hook::{consts::SIGINT, iterator::Signals};
 use tracing::{error, info};
@@ -53,7 +52,9 @@ use url::Url;
 
 use compute_api::responses::ComputeStatus;
 
-use compute_tools::compute::{ComputeNode, ComputeState, ParsedSpec, PG_PID, SYNC_SAFEKEEPERS_PID};
+use compute_tools::compute::{
+    forward_termination_signal, ComputeNode, ComputeState, ParsedSpec, PG_PID,
+};
 use compute_tools::configurator::launch_configurator;
 use compute_tools::extension_server::get_pg_version;
 use compute_tools::http::api::launch_http_server;
@@ -394,6 +395,15 @@ fn main() -> Result<()> {
         info!("synced safekeepers at lsn {lsn}");
     }
 
+    let mut state = compute.state.lock().unwrap();
+    if state.status == ComputeStatus::TerminationPending {
+        state.status = ComputeStatus::Terminated;
+        compute.state_changed.notify_all();
+        // we were asked to terminate gracefully, don't exit to avoid restart
+        delay_exit = true
+    }
+    drop(state);
+
     if let Err(err) = compute.check_for_core_dumps() {
         error!("error while checking for core dumps: {err:?}");
     }
@@ -523,16 +533,7 @@ fn cli() -> clap::Command {
 /// wait for termination which would be easy then.
 fn handle_exit_signal(sig: i32) {
     info!("received {sig} termination signal");
-    let ss_pid = SYNC_SAFEKEEPERS_PID.load(Ordering::SeqCst);
-    if ss_pid != 0 {
-        let ss_pid = nix::unistd::Pid::from_raw(ss_pid as i32);
-        kill(ss_pid, Signal::SIGTERM).ok();
-    }
-    let pg_pid = PG_PID.load(Ordering::SeqCst);
-    if pg_pid != 0 {
-        let pg_pid = nix::unistd::Pid::from_raw(pg_pid as i32);
-        kill(pg_pid, Signal::SIGTERM).ok();
-    }
+    forward_termination_signal();
     exit(1);
 }