Update most of the dependencies to their latest versions (#4026)

See https://github.com/neondatabase/neon/pull/3991

Brings the changes back with the right way to use new `toml_edit` to
deserialize values and a unit test for this.

All non-trivial updates extracted into separate commits, also `carho hakari` data and its manifest format were updated.

3 sets of crates remain unupdated:

* `base64` — touches proxy in a lot of places and changed its api (by 0.21 version) quite strongly since our version (0.13).
* `opentelemetry` and `opentelemetry-*` crates

```
error[E0308]: mismatched types
  --> libs/tracing-utils/src/http.rs:65:21
   |
65 |     span.set_parent(parent_ctx);
   |          ---------- ^^^^^^^^^^ expected struct `opentelemetry_api::context::Context`, found struct `opentelemetry::Context`
   |          |
   |          arguments to this method are incorrect
   |
   = note: struct `opentelemetry::Context` and struct `opentelemetry_api::context::Context` have similar names, but are actually distinct types
note: struct `opentelemetry::Context` is defined in crate `opentelemetry_api`
  --> /Users/someonetoignore/.cargo/registry/src/github.com-1ecc6299db9ec823/opentelemetry_api-0.19.0/src/context.rs:77:1
   |
77 | pub struct Context {
   | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
note: struct `opentelemetry_api::context::Context` is defined in crate `opentelemetry_api`
  --> /Users/someonetoignore/.cargo/registry/src/github.com-1ecc6299db9ec823/opentelemetry_api-0.18.0/src/context.rs:77:1
   |
77 | pub struct Context {
   | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
   = note: perhaps two different versions of crate `opentelemetry_api` are being used?
note: associated function defined here
  --> /Users/someonetoignore/.cargo/registry/src/github.com-1ecc6299db9ec823/tracing-opentelemetry-0.18.0/src/span_ext.rs:43:8
   |
43 |     fn set_parent(&self, cx: Context);
   |        ^^^^^^^^^^

For more information about this error, try `rustc --explain E0308`.
error: could not compile `tracing-utils` due to previous error
warning: build failed, waiting for other jobs to finish...
error: could not compile `tracing-utils` due to previous error
```

`tracing-opentelemetry` of version `0.19` is not yet released, that is supposed to have the update we need.

* similarly, `rustls`, `tokio-rustls`, `rustls-*` and `tls-listener` crates have similar issue:

```
error[E0308]: mismatched types
   --> libs/postgres_backend/tests/simple_select.rs:112:78
    |
112 |     let mut make_tls_connect = tokio_postgres_rustls::MakeRustlsConnect::new(client_cfg);
    |                                --------------------------------------------- ^^^^^^^^^^ expected struct `rustls::client::client_conn::ClientConfig`, found struct `ClientConfig`
    |                                |
    |                                arguments to this function are incorrect
    |
    = note: struct `ClientConfig` and struct `rustls::client::client_conn::ClientConfig` have similar names, but are actually distinct types
note: struct `ClientConfig` is defined in crate `rustls`
   --> /Users/someonetoignore/.cargo/registry/src/github.com-1ecc6299db9ec823/rustls-0.21.0/src/client/client_conn.rs:125:1
    |
125 | pub struct ClientConfig {
    | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
note: struct `rustls::client::client_conn::ClientConfig` is defined in crate `rustls`
   --> /Users/someonetoignore/.cargo/registry/src/github.com-1ecc6299db9ec823/rustls-0.20.8/src/client/client_conn.rs:91:1
    |
91  | pub struct ClientConfig {
    | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
    = note: perhaps two different versions of crate `rustls` are being used?
note: associated function defined here
   --> /Users/someonetoignore/.cargo/registry/src/github.com-1ecc6299db9ec823/tokio-postgres-rustls-0.9.0/src/lib.rs:23:12
    |
23  |     pub fn new(config: ClientConfig) -> Self {
    |            ^^^

For more information about this error, try `rustc --explain E0308`.
error: could not compile `postgres_backend` due to previous error
warning: build failed, waiting for other jobs to finish...
```

* aws crates: I could not make new API to work with bucket endpoint overload, and console e2e tests failed.
Other our tests passed, further investigation is worth to be done in https://github.com/neondatabase/neon/issues/4008

libs/postgres_ffi/build.rs

@@ -5,7 +5,7 @@ use std::path::PathBuf;
 use std::process::Command;
 
 use anyhow::{anyhow, Context};
-use bindgen::callbacks::ParseCallbacks;
+use bindgen::callbacks::{DeriveInfo, ParseCallbacks};
 
 #[derive(Debug)]
 struct PostgresFfiCallbacks;
@@ -20,7 +20,7 @@ impl ParseCallbacks for PostgresFfiCallbacks {
 
     // Add any custom #[derive] attributes to the data structures that bindgen
     // creates.
-    fn add_derives(&self, name: &str) -> Vec<String> {
+    fn add_derives(&self, derive_info: &DeriveInfo) -> Vec<String> {
         // This is the list of data structures that we want to serialize/deserialize.
         let serde_list = [
             "XLogRecord",
@@ -31,7 +31,7 @@ impl ParseCallbacks for PostgresFfiCallbacks {
             "ControlFileData",
         ];
 
-        if serde_list.contains(&name) {
+        if serde_list.contains(&derive_info.name) {
             vec![
                 "Default".into(), // Default allows us to easily fill the padding fields with 0.
                 "Serialize".into(),