CI: Update outdated GitHub Actions (#8042)

## Problem
We have some amount of outdated action in the CI pipeline, GitHub
complains about some of them.

## Summary of changes
- Update `actions/checkout@1` (a really old one) in
`vm-compute-node-image`
- Update `actions/checkout@3` in `build-build-tools-image`
- Update `docker/setup-buildx-action` in all workflows / jobs, it was
downgraded in https://github.com/neondatabase/neon/pull/7445, but it
it seems it works fine now

.github/workflows/build-build-tools-image.yml

@@ -55,7 +55,7 @@ jobs:
             exit 1
           fi
 
-      - uses: actions/checkout@v3
+      - uses: actions/checkout@v4
 
       # Use custom DOCKER_CONFIG directory to avoid conflicts with default settings
       # The default value is ~/.docker
@@ -64,7 +64,7 @@ jobs:
           mkdir -p /tmp/.docker-custom
           echo DOCKER_CONFIG=/tmp/.docker-custom >> $GITHUB_ENV
 
-      - uses: docker/setup-buildx-action@v2
+      - uses: docker/setup-buildx-action@v3
 
       - uses: docker/login-action@v2
         with:

.github/workflows/build_and_test.yml

@@ -744,7 +744,7 @@ jobs:
         run: |
           mkdir -p .docker-custom
           echo DOCKER_CONFIG=$(pwd)/.docker-custom >> $GITHUB_ENV
-      - uses: docker/setup-buildx-action@v2
+      - uses: docker/setup-buildx-action@v3
 
       - uses: docker/login-action@v3
         with:
@@ -822,11 +822,11 @@ jobs:
         run: |
           mkdir -p .docker-custom
           echo DOCKER_CONFIG=$(pwd)/.docker-custom >> $GITHUB_ENV
-      - uses: docker/setup-buildx-action@v2
+      - uses: docker/setup-buildx-action@v3
         with:
           # Disable parallelism for docker buildkit.
           # As we already build everything with `make -j$(nproc)`, running it in additional level of parallelisam blows up the Runner.
-          config-inline: |
+          buildkitd-config-inline: |
             [worker.oci]
               max-parallelism = 1
 
@@ -858,7 +858,7 @@ jobs:
           cache-to: type=registry,ref=neondatabase/compute-node-${{ matrix.version }}:cache-${{ matrix.arch }},mode=max
           tags: |
             neondatabase/compute-node-${{ matrix.version }}:${{ needs.tag.outputs.build-tag }}-${{ matrix.arch }}
-      
+
       - name: Build neon extensions test image
         if: matrix.version == 'v16'
         uses: docker/build-push-action@v5
@@ -965,7 +965,7 @@ jobs:
 
     steps:
       - name: Checkout
-        uses: actions/checkout@v1
+        uses: actions/checkout@v4
         with:
           fetch-depth: 0