Some VMs, when already scaled up as much as possible, end up spamming
the autoscaler-agent with upscale requests that will never be fulfilled.
If postgres is using memory greater than the cgroup's memory.high, it
can emit new memory.high events 1000 times per second, which... just
means unnecessary load on the rest of the system.
This changes the vm-monitor so that we skip sending upscale requests if
we already sent one within the last second, to avoid spamming the
autoscaler-agent. This matches previous behavior that the vm-informant
hand.
Part 1 of 2, for moving the file cache onto disk.
Because VMs are created by the control plane (and that's where the
filesystem for the file cache is defined), we can't rely on any kind of
synchronization between releases, so the change needs to be
feature-gated (kind of), with the default remaining the same for now.
See also: neondatabase/cloud#6593
