The solution we ended up for `backoff::retry` requires always cloning of
cancellation tokens even though there is just `.await`. Fix that, and
also turn the return type into `Option<Result<T, E>>` avoiding the need
for the `E::cancelled()` fn passed in.
Cc: #6096
## Problem
Currently, anything that uses backoff::retry will delay the join of its
task by however long its backoff sleep is, multiplied by its max
retries.
Whenever we call a function that sleeps, we should be passing in a
CancellationToken.
## Summary of changes
- Add a `Cancel` type to backoff::retry that wraps a CancellationToken
and an error `Fn` to generate an error if the cancellation token fires.
- In call sites that already run in a `task_mgr` task, use
`shutdown_token()` to provide the token. In other locations, use a dead
`CancellationToken` to satisfy the interface, and leave a TODO to fix it
up when we broaden the use of explicit cancellation tokens.
Originated from test failure where we got SlowDown error from s3.
The patch generalizes `download_retry` to not be download specific.
Resulting `retry` function is moved to utils crate. `download_retries`
is now a thin wrapper around this `retry` function.
To ensure that all needed retries are in place test code now uses
`test_remote_failures=1` setting.
Ref https://neondb.slack.com/archives/C059ZC138NR/p1691743624353009
