Per [feedback], split the Layer metrics, also finally account for lost
and [re-submitted feedback] on `layer_gc` by renaming it to
`layer_delete`, `Layer::garbage_collect_on_drop` renamed to
`Layer::delete_on_drop`. References to "gc" dropped from metric names
and elsewhere.
Also fixes how the cancellations were tracked: there was one rare
counter. Now there is a top level metric for cancelled inits, and the
rare "download failed but failed to communicate" counter is kept.
Fixes: #6027
[feedback]: https://github.com/neondatabase/neon/pull/5809#pullrequestreview-1720043251
[re-submitted feedback]: https://github.com/neondatabase/neon/pull/5108#discussion_r1401867311
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