## Problem
The websockets gauge for active db connections seems to be growing more
than the gauge for client connections over websockets, which does not
make sense.
## Summary of changes
refactor how our counter-pair gauges are represented. not sure if this
will improve the problem, but it should be harder to mess-up the
counters. The API is much nicer though now and doesn't require
scopeguard::defer hacks
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