See #11942
Idea:
* if connections are short lived, they can get enqueued and then also
remove themselves later if they never made it to redis. This reduces the
load on the queue.
* short lived connections (<10m, most?) will only issue 1 command, we
remove the delete command and rely on ttl.
* we can enqueue as many commands as we want, as we can always cancel
the enqueue, thanks to the ~~intrusive linked lists~~ `BTreeMap`.
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