Rather temporary solution before proper:
https://github.com/neondatabase/neon/issues/5006
It requires more plumbing so lets not attach deleted tenants first and
then implement resume.
Additionally fix `assert_prefix_empty`. It had a buggy prefix calculation,
and since we always asserted for absence of stuff it worked. Here I
started to assert for presence of stuff too and it failed. Added more
"presence" asserts to other places to be confident that it works.
Resolves [#5016](https://github.com/neondatabase/neon/issues/5016)
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