CI: update docker/* actions to latest versions (#7694)

## Problem

GitHub Actions complain that we use actions that depend on deprecated
Node 16:

```
Node.js 16 actions are deprecated. Please update the following actions to use Node.js 20: docker/setup-buildx-action@v2
```

But also, the latest `docker/setup-buildx-action` fails with the following
error:
```
/nvme/actions-runner/_work/_actions/docker/setup-buildx-action/v3/webpack:/docker-setup-buildx/node_modules/@actions/cache/lib/cache.js:175
            throw new Error(`Path Validation Error: Path(s) specified in the action for caching do(es) not exist, hence no cache is being saved.`);
^
Error: Path Validation Error: Path(s) specified in the action for caching do(es) not exist, hence no cache is being saved.
    at Object.rejected (/nvme/actions-runner/_work/_actions/docker/setup-buildx-action/v3/webpack:/docker-setup-buildx/node_modules/@actions/cache/lib/cache.js:175:1)
    at Generator.next (<anonymous>)
    at fulfilled (/nvme/actions-runner/_work/_actions/docker/setup-buildx-action/v3/webpack:/docker-setup-buildx/node_modules/@actions/cache/lib/cache.js:29:1)
```

We can work this around by setting `cache-binary: false` for `uses:
docker/setup-buildx-action@v3`

## Summary of changes
- Update `docker/setup-buildx-action` from `v2` to `v3`, set
`cache-binary: false`
- Update `docker/login-action` from `v2` to `v3`
- Update `docker/build-push-action` from `v4`/`v5` to `v6`

.github/workflows/build-build-tools-image.yml

@@ -63,14 +63,16 @@ jobs:
           mkdir -p /tmp/.docker-custom
           echo DOCKER_CONFIG=/tmp/.docker-custom >> $GITHUB_ENV
 
-      - uses: docker/setup-buildx-action@v2
+      - uses: docker/setup-buildx-action@v3
+        with:
+          cache-binary: false
 
-      - uses: docker/login-action@v2
+      - uses: docker/login-action@v3
         with:
           username: ${{ secrets.NEON_DOCKERHUB_USERNAME }}
           password: ${{ secrets.NEON_DOCKERHUB_PASSWORD }}
 
-      - uses: docker/build-push-action@v4
+      - uses: docker/build-push-action@v6
         with:
           context: .
           provenance: false

.github/workflows/build_and_test.yml

@@ -751,14 +751,16 @@ jobs:
         run: |
           mkdir -p .docker-custom
           echo DOCKER_CONFIG=$(pwd)/.docker-custom >> $GITHUB_ENV
-      - uses: docker/setup-buildx-action@v2
+      - uses: docker/setup-buildx-action@v3
+        with:
+          cache-binary: false
 
       - uses: docker/login-action@v3
         with:
           username: ${{ secrets.NEON_DOCKERHUB_USERNAME }}
           password: ${{ secrets.NEON_DOCKERHUB_PASSWORD }}
 
-      - uses: docker/build-push-action@v5
+      - uses: docker/build-push-action@v6
         with:
           context: .
           build-args: |
@@ -829,11 +831,12 @@ jobs:
         run: |
           mkdir -p .docker-custom
           echo DOCKER_CONFIG=$(pwd)/.docker-custom >> $GITHUB_ENV
-      - uses: docker/setup-buildx-action@v2
+      - uses: docker/setup-buildx-action@v3
         with:
+          cache-binary: false
           # Disable parallelism for docker buildkit.
           # As we already build everything with `make -j$(nproc)`, running it in additional level of parallelisam blows up the Runner.
-          config-inline: |
+          buildkitd-config-inline: |
             [worker.oci]
               max-parallelism = 1
 
@@ -849,7 +852,7 @@ jobs:
           password: ${{ secrets.AWS_SECRET_KEY_DEV }}
 
       - name: Build compute-node image
-        uses: docker/build-push-action@v5
+        uses: docker/build-push-action@v6
         with:
           context: .
           build-args: |
@@ -868,7 +871,7 @@ jobs:
 
       - name: Build neon extensions test image
         if: matrix.version == 'v16'
-        uses: docker/build-push-action@v5
+        uses: docker/build-push-action@v6
         with:
           context: .
           build-args: |
@@ -889,7 +892,7 @@ jobs:
       - name: Build compute-tools image
         # compute-tools are Postgres independent, so build it only once
         if: matrix.version == 'v16'
-        uses: docker/build-push-action@v5
+        uses: docker/build-push-action@v6
         with:
           target: compute-tools-image
           context: .